I don’t understand women.
I think I have a good grasp on people and our behavior. Not to imply that women aren’t people, but trying to suss out certain female aspects of … well, let me just get into it.
Example: Why do women find men who sing in falsetto attractive?
Smokey Robinson. Eric Benet. Bilal. Dwele. Maxwell. And so on. Michael Jackson. A lot of R&B crooners do that. I had no idea who Robin Thicke was until recently. I couldn’t stand what I heard, though. Sorry, Robin.
As an aside and as a general rule, I don’t like hearing men sing about their d!cks. Thank you. In fact, I’ll pass on genital music altogether. A little subtlety goes a long way.
Anywho, falsetto is kind of a, I don’t know. On its surface, you don’t think of men with high pitched voices as masculine. Right? And yet singing in a high pitched voice seems to be a staple of love songs. Oh, pardon me. “Love” songs. And women are like, “Ooo girrrrrl! That’s not at all effeminate or sexually ambiguous!”
You’d think there would be a zillion Barry White clones out there flooding the music industry. But nope. I guess they’re destined to be DJs and commercial voiceover artists.
I don’t get why young Japanese women are enthralled by male-male homosexual erotica. Why male teenage heartthrobs are typically very girly/pretty. Long, girly hair is a plus.
The Twilight Series, what I’ve heard/read about it, is another one. In this age of feminism and womanism, why is a story about a girl with embarrassingly low self esteem being stalked and groomed by a predator so popular and appealing to young women?
Moon retweets the Feministe blog entries. I don’t like the vibe of that collective blog, I should say up front. We, as human beings, want to feel attractive or mate-worthy. Women go out of their way to package and present themselves in public. Women’s fashion is designed to accentuate and/or reveal curves and cleavages. Then I’ll read something where women are offended that men express attraction to a woman’s physical attractiveness. Or men being attracted to an exotic quality is apparently offensive to some.
Attraction = objectifying. Question mark. I have a theory — I’ve got a lot of them — that we’re genetically attracted to traits that we find exotic because deep within us on a genetic level we have an urge to procreate as diversely as possible. That’s why we find foreign accents intoxicating, for example. Like, how dare a man be attracted to a woman for anything other than her brain. Conversation. Deep, personal journey. While those things are important, they’re not what we notice about each other first. Biology doesn’t work that way. Not if you’ve got eyes and ears, anyway. There are a lot of angry women on that blog. I guess the outright anger and vitriol is in the comments, to be fair. It’s like listening to WPFW in the mornings except that instead of being obsessed with being angry at white people they’re obsessed with being angry at men.
I won’t get into the whole bad boy thing because it’s passe at this point. Passe to talk about it, I mean.
I can’t get pregnant, thank god, and therefore I can’t give birth. It amazes me that a woman can go through that whole process and go through a painful life- and maybe body-altering process that includes nausea, mood swings, back pain, weight gain, stretch marks, loss of sleep, loss of partner and then a few months later think, “I want to do that again.”
That is some powerful mojo.
Let me back up a little bit. Is it offensive for me to say that feminists are angry? Or is that just part of what it means to be intellectually radical or militant?
Take a step back and observe our society and overall it’s a confusing situation. For me, at least. I’m not walking around befuddled and unable to interact in society. I’m just saying, for the sake of this blog entry.
Are sexy women who show as much skin, butt and breasts as possible with low cut this and high cut that and pierced those and thong there modern and liberated? Or are they victims of a male libido driven fashion industry bent on sexualizing them? Is the video vixen a feminist icon? Playboy models? The women in bikinis at boxing matches? The women in disposable razor commercials who appear in the background as the male model washes the last of the cream off of his ridiculously square jawline? Strippers/exotic dancers? Hooters girls?
Or is it only bad when guys look and are attracted to them? Are prostitutes considered liberated and powerful in their comfort with their sexuality? Or are they slaves to male hegemony?
Is the fact that they’re making a living off of their T&A a good thing? Or is it exploitation?
If female sexuality is a powerful force to be respected and celebrated — well, how does that work if male sexuality isn’t respected and celebrated as well?
Is chivalry insulting, outdated or a sign of respect?
And is it just me or is Nicki Minaj horrible. Her music, I mean. She’s unmistakably incredibly beautiful/sexy. She’s unmistakably talented/creative. In that order. She’s been described as a black Barbie and a black Jessica Rabbit. I tried listening to her new release and it was … uh uh. And she’s got attitude for days. But have you heard what she’s saying? Plus what the ft. rappers are spouting. It’s everything I don’t like about hip hop. Or that genre of hip hop, anyway. Small minded, materialistic, ego hubris self promotion. Pass.
More power to her, though. Truth of it is, women in our society — especially pop stars — have about a five year lifespan before they’re disposed of and become fodder for reality TV shows. Sad but true.
Sex appeal is a prerequisite for female musical artists. I guess you use any edge you’ve got. Do a visual sample of album covers for male and female jazz musicians, for example.
If a woman decides she wants to stay at home raising her kids instead of working, is she a sellout? What if she encourages other women to do so because she feels great satisfaction and sees benefits for her kids? What if she tries to instigate a movement?
Why does it seem like women don’t like each other? Sometimes, you see a woman scan another woman and a spontaneous micro-expression of disapproval and/or disgust crosses her face. And I may say, “What what was that about?” And she’ll say, “What?” Like she has no idea what I could possibly be talking about. Or I’ve known women whose lives are full of drama of some sort who say that they prefer to have male friends because women have too much drama. Like, “Ugh. Women.”
Touchy subject here, to say the least. Why do people say that rape isn’t about sex, it’s about power? It’s almost an aphorism now. It’s obviously about both. Domination through sexual violation. If it were only about power then it would be a matter of, I don’t know, physical abuse and violation. As opposed to sexual abuse and violation. Sexual gratification is obviously involved, as twisted as it is.
Did you read about the staggering number of rapes in South Africa? WTH! Did you read back in the World Cup days earlier this year that a woman developed a female condom with teeth?
That’s not confusing at all even though it’s not the solution to a culture of rape. A culture of rape in this day and age.
Fight the power.